When you’re little, you’re told a bunch of things about what would happen when you grow older. We’ve all heard those stories about “growing up”. You will go to higher classes. You will make new friends. You will party. You will go out into the big world and go to college. You will become independent and blah blah blah. Eventually when you actually do grow up, you realise some things no one ever told you and you wish for someone to have told you those.
#1 You won’t have everything sorted
Growing up, in high school, no matter how much you don’t want it but you will have a lot of figuring out to do: what you want to do, what do you love, what is your passion, who are your friends, where do you want yourself in a few years, etc. Everything isn’t going to always be hunky-dory and a cakewalk. The faster you accept that, the easier it gets.
#2 It is super hard to maintain a social life
When you’re in high school and you’re trying to figure out who you are and what you want to do, you’re going to have lots on your shoulders and to add to that you will want to make new friends and hang out with old ones. In this colossal mess it’s very hard to maintain a social life without potentially exhausting yourself tremendously.
#3 Change is good
We resist change. Always have. But while resisting change we often fail to see how change is always good. It seems hard but it’s worth it. Whether it’s a change in city, in friendships, in a relationship or even a change in yourself, it’s painful but for the best.
#4 Rejection
Each and every one of us will face rejection at some point or the other. And yes, it hurts. It stings at the very core. And in that hurt we don’t realise how rejection is necessary; in order for us to become stronger and tougher and to be able to become better. We need the rejection.
#5 Trust issues come with the territory
As mentioned earlier things aren’t normally a cakewalk. When you start out everyone is nice and things seem.great but then reality checks happen. That’s when you realise that trust issues come with the territory. One bitten, twice shy.
#6 The Wait
We’re all waiting. Waiting for something or the other to happen. And that is the tough part. When you’re standing at the threshold and you feel you’re ready for something and it just doesn’t happen, it’s terribly disheartening but you still can’t give up on it. Sometimes you need to re-look at the situation and stop waiting.
#7 Expectations
I kid you not but expectations can kill. It’s hard to not have expectations from people or even ourselves. Sometimes we have these massive expectations from people only because we know we’d be willing to do so much more for them. And when it comes to ourselves, we want to prove ourselves. But sadly, the bitter truth is this: Expectations only lead to Disappointments. Nobody and nothing is perfect. So let them go.
#8 Time is of essence
How often have we heard, “Time and tide wait for no man.” ? A billion times maybe? Growing up you realise how every second is valuable, is precious. Once gone it never comes back. And every second has the potential to change our future. So wasting it isn’t worth it. Live in the moment for you live only once.
#9 Keep the plans flexible
We all have these dream plans and while it’s great to have them, I’ve learnt it’s far better to keep them simple and loose. Life doesn’t always work out our way so adapting and going with the flow is key.
#10 You get what you give
It is a vicious cycle. Whatever you give comes back to you. Sure getting back given love, respect, happiness is lovely but remember all those bitchy moments? When you said or did something you probably regret now? They come back to you. It’s called Karma. Stay positive and keep it simple.
As I write this list I realise maybe we aren’t meant to be told all this. Maybe we’re meant to learn these first hand. Or maybe it’s just that I’ve lived a protective life but now, standing at the threshold of adulthood I realise this: take every opportunity you get and make the most of it. The growing up bit will happen one way or another.
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